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Can We Talk?

The Counselor in the Kit

When a married couple has a conflict there is no mediator, no counselor, no one to step in and say "How did you feel when that happened?" There is no one to help de-escalate and reconnect. Shutting down, walking away, ignoring, refusing to apologize, refusing to talk all are unhealthy responses in a marriage. Can We Talk? was created to help couples reconnect after a conflict. In three simple steps couples will receive apologies, say how they felt and feel empowered to reconnect after a conflict in a faster time frame.

How it works: After the couple has an argument, conflict or disagreement which has caused the couples to separate themselves from each other, they get a card and give it to the spouse. No conversation. No fighting.  Next Step 1- Choose the appropriate card. Step 2-Give or send the card to your spouse. Step 3-Wait for a response. You can download the card and send it to your spouse via text or email. You can print it off and give it to them.  

 

Feeling Card

hurt

 

Feeling Card

disrespected

 

Feeling Card

alone

This card is given by the spouse who has feelings they want to express based on the recent conflict. This card represents the feeling of being hurt.

By giving this card to your spouse it's communicating to them that the actions of they said and/or did hurt you. Even though they may have their own hurt or other negative emotion it is important for you to share your hurt.  

This card is given by the spouse who has feelings they want to express based on the recent conflict. This card represents the feeling of being 

disrespected.

By giving this card to your spouse it's communicating to them that their actions disrespected you. 

This card is given by the spouse who has feelings they want to express based on the recent conflict. This card represents the feeling of being alone.

By giving this card to your spouse it's communicating to them that their actions of leaving, withdrawing, separating whether physically or emotionally left you with feeling alone. 

 

Feeling Card

misunderstood

 

Feeling Card

unsupported

 

Feeling Card

unloved

This card is given by the spouse who shas feeliings they want to express based on the recent conflict. This card represents the feeling of being misunderstood.

By giving this card to your spouse it is communicating to them that you were trying to communicate to them about something and their response gave you the feeling of being misunderstood.

This card is given by the spouse who has feelings they want to express based on the recent conflict. This card represents the feeling of being unsupported.

By giving this card to your spouse it's communicating to them that you have been bambared with life. You just want your spouse to know you need some support.


 

This card is given by the spouse who has feelings they want to express based on the recent conflict. This card represents the feeling of being unsupported.

By giving this card to your spouse it's communicating to them that you have been bambared with life. You just want your spouse to know you need some support.


 


This card is given by the spouse who has feelings they want to express based on the recent conflict. This card represents the feeling of being unloved.

By giving this card to your spouse it's communicating to them that you have not been feeling loved by them. You just want your spouse to know you need some love.  

 

These are flags, which symbolizes peace.